Therapy in Maryland
Working with couples
Therapy for Maryland couples who want to learn more about themselves and more deeply connect with each other.
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Most couples come in feeling stuck, having the same argument on repeat, growing distant, or carrying a rupture they do not know how to repair.
What I have learned from years of sitting with couples is that the problem is almost never what it looks like on the surface. Underneath the conflict and disconnection is almost always a pattern, a cycle both partners get pulled into, faster than either can catch it, driven by fears and longings that have never been named.
My job is to help you see that pattern clearly, understand where it comes from, and begin to do something different. The work is attachment-informed, experiential, and collaborative.
Most couples love each other, they just cannot find their way back.
- Build awareness of your patterns
- Stop having the same fight over and over again
- Build safety so you can create a new dynamic
Throughout our childhood and early life, we develop patterns of creating safety for ourselves in order to navigate stressful/unsafe situations. These patterns often will show up in your relationships and interact with your partner’s patterns. Together we will explore and understand these.
Patterns
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Couples therapy is not just for couples who are having a hard time. I get excited when a couple comes in and things are going well - this is a great opportunity to learn and grow together without having to work as hard to repair past hurts/entrenched patterns and difficult dynamics.
It can be beneficial to engage in therapy while things are going well, so that we can further strengthen the relationship. This can help you navigate future challenges more effectively.
Premarital Therapy
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- Deepen your understanding of each other
- Strengthen your bond
- Tackle small moments of disconnection before they become a bigger issue
It is hard to navigate an affair, or other relationship rupture, alone . Together we can work to heal your relationship and create a stronger bond.
Affair Recovery
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- Rebuild trust
- Communicate effectively through triggering moments (Learn how to communicate when mistrust arises)
- Feel more connected
Becoming a parent has a significant impact on relationships. We can feel that we have less to give, feel more easily irritated, and resentment can start to build. Whether you are together or coparenting, we can work to strengthen your communication and connection.
Parenting
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- Improve communication
- Feel seen and heard
- Be a team again/Be on the same team
- Gain a deeper understanding of the experience
- Learn how it impacts your relationship
- Heal together
Past trauma, defined not by the event but rather how your body processes the event, can significantly impact relationships, whether the trauma occurred in your relationship or outside of it. Individual therapy is crucial, but there are aspects of healing that can be powerful when done together.
Trauma
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Many of us did not see healthy communication modeled, nor were we given a blueprint for how to have it in our relationships. We want to communicate better, but we have no idea where to start.
Improving Communication
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- Learn your and your partners’ communication style
- Practice slowing down and hearing each other
- Communicate more effectively
- Feel safe being vulnerable
- Learn how to respond to your partner’s vulnerability
- Restore intimacy
It’s common that couples have difficulty communicating, but we don’t realize how much it can impact a relationship's ability to deepen. Together we will deepen your connection through building trust.
Deepening Trust
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- Stop having the same fight
- Feel confident navigating conflict
- Use conflict to grow closer
We often skip this step because we don’t know how to safely repair after a conflict. This can cause unresolved issues that keep popping up in your arguments. You might feel like you can’t seem to move on. It never feels resolved.
Conflict Resolution/Repairing after Conflict
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The first step is a free 15-30 minute consultation call. This is a chance to ask questions, get a feel for whether we are a good fit, and talk through what you are looking for.
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*A note on availability: I offer individual therapy on a limited basis alongside my couples work. I keep my individual caseload intentionally small so I can show up fully for each client. If you are interested, please reach out, as spots fill quickly.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How is couples therapy different from individual therapy?
Do we need to be in crisis to start couples therapy?
How long does couples therapy take?
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What if one of us is more motivated than the other?
Do you work with all couples?
What is your rate for couples therapy?
How do I get started?
Couples therapy focuses on the relationship itself, the dynamic between you, the patterns that develop, and what each of you brings from your own histories. While individual therapy focuses on one person's inner world and growth, couples therapy works with both partners and the space between them simultaneously.
It depends on what you are working on and what you are hoping to shift. Some couples come in with a specific focus and find meaningful movement in a few months. Others are working through deeper patterns or significant ruptures and benefit from longer term work. We will talk about this together and check in regularly as we go.